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A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience,
raised a glass of water and asked,

“How heavy is this glass of water?”

Answers called out ranged from 20g. to 500g.

The lecturer replied,

“The absolute weight doesn’t matter.
It depends on how long you try to hold it.

If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem.
If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm.
If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance.

In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it,

the heavier it becomes.”

He continued,

“And that’s the way it is with stress management.
If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later,
as the burden becomes increasingly heavy,
we won’t be able to carry on. ”

“As with the glass of water,
you have to put it down for a while and
rest before holding it again.

When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden.”

“So, before you return home tonight,
put the burden of work down. Don’t carry it home.
You can pick it up tomorrow.Whatever burdens you’re carrying now,
set them down and don’t pick them up again
until after you’ve rested a while.

Here are some great ways of dealing with the burdens of life:

* Accept that on some days you’re the pigeon,
and some days you’re the statue.

* Always keep your words soft and sweet,
just in case you have to eat them.

* Always read stuff that will make you look good
if you die in the middle of it.

* Drive carefully. It’s not only cars that can be
recalled by their Maker.

* If you can’t be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.

* If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again,
it was probably worth it.

* It may be that your sole purpose in life
is simply to be kind to others.

* Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time,
because you won’t have a leg to stand on.

* The second mouse gets the cheese.

* When everything’s coming your way,
you’re in the wrong lane.

* Birthdays are good for you.
The more you have, the longer you live.

* You may be the only one person in the world,
but you may also be the world to one person.

* Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.

* We could learn a lot from crayons…

Some are sharp, some are pretty and
some are dull.

Some have weird names and all are different colors,
but they all have to live in the same box.

*A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

A little boy asked his mother, “Why are you crying?” “Because I’m a
woman,” she told him.

“I don’t understand,” he said. His Mom just hugged him and
said, “And you never will.”

Later the little boy asked his father, “Why does mother seem to cry
for no reason?”

“All women cry for no reason,” was all his dad could say.

The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women
cry.

Finally he put in a call to God. When God got on the phone, he
asked, “God, why do women cry so easily?”

God said: “When I made the woman she had to be special.

I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the
world, yet gentle enough to give comfort.

I gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection
that many times comes from her children.

I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone
else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and
fatigue without complaining.

I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all
circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly.

I gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and
fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart.

I gave her wisdom to know that ! a good husband never hurts his
wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand
beside him unfalteringly.

And finally, I gave her a tear to shed. This is hers exclusively to
use whenever it is needed.”

“You see my son,” said God, “the beauty of a woman is not in the
clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she
combs her hair.

The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the
doorway to her heart - the place where love resides.”

You will enjoy the new insights that Rick Warren has, with his wife now
having cancer and him having ‘wealth’ from the book sales. This is an
absolutely incredible short interview with Rick Warren,

‘Purpose Driven Life ‘ author and pastor of Saddleback Church in
California

In the interview by Paul Bradshaw with Rick Warren, Rick said:

People ask me, What is the purpose of life? And I respond: In a
nutshell, life is preparation for eternity. We were not made to last
forever, and God wants us to be with Him in Heaven.

One day my heart is going to stop, and that will be the end of my
body– but not the end of me.

I may live 60 to 100 years on earth, but I am going to spend trillions
of years in eternity.. This is the warm-up act - the dress rehearsal..
God wants us to practice on earth what we will do forever in eternity.

We were made by God and for God, and until you figure that out, life
isn’t going to make sense.

Life is a series of problems: Either you are in one now, you’re just
coming out of one, or you’re getting ready to go into another one.

The reason for this is that God is more interested in your character
than your comfort.

God is more interested in making your life holy than He is in making
your life happy.

We can be reasonably happy here on earth, but that’s not the goal of
life. The goal is to grow in character, in Christ likeness.

This past year has been the greatest year of my life but also the
toughest, with my wife, Kay, getting cancer.

I used to think that life was hills and valleys - you go through a dark
time, then you go to the mountaintop, back and forth.. I don’t believe
that anymore.

Rather than life being hills and valleys, I believe that it’s kind of
like two rails on a railroad track, and at all times you have something
good and something bad in your life.

No matter how good things are in your life, there is always something
bad that needs to be worked on.

And no matter how bad things are in your life, there is always
something good you can thank God for.

You can focus on your purposes, or you can focus on your problems.

If you focus on your problems, you’re going into self-centeredness,
‘which is my problem, my issues, my pain.’ But one of the easiest ways
to get rid of pain is to get your focus off yourself and onto God and
others.

We discovered quickly that in spite of the prayers of hundreds of
thousands of people, God was not going to heal Kay or make it easy for
her.

It has been very difficult for her, and yet God has strengthened her
character, given her a ministry of helping other people, given her a
testimony, drawn her closer to Him and to people.

You have to learn to deal with both the good and the bad of life.

Actually, sometimes learning to deal with the good is harder. For
instance, this past year, all of a sudden, when the book sold 15
million copies, it made me instantly very wealthy.

It also brought a lot of notoriety that I had never had to deal with
before. I don’t think God gives you money or notoriety for your own ego
or for you to live a life of ease.

So I began to ask God what He wanted me to do with this money,
notoriety and influence. He gave me two different passages that helped
me decide what to do, II Corinthians 9 and Psalm 72

First, in spite of all the money coming in, we would not change our
lifestyle one bit. We made no major purchases.
Second, about midway through last year, I stopped taking a salary from
the church.

Third, we set up foundations to fund an initiative we call The Peace
Plan to plant churches, equip leaders, assist the poor, care for the
sick, and educate the next generation.

Fourth, I added up all that the chu rch had paid me in the 24 years
since I started the church, and I gave it all back. It was liberating
to be able to serve God for free.

We need to ask ourselves: Am I going to live for possessions?
Popularity?

Am I going to be driven by pressures? Guilt? Bitterness? Materialism?
Or am I going to be driven by God’s purposes (for my life)?

When I get up in the morning, I sit on the side of my bed and say, God,
if I don’t get anything else done today, I want to know You more and
love You better. God didn’t put me on earth just to fulfill a to-do
list. He’s more interested in what I am than what I do.
That’s why we’re called human beings, not human doings.

Happy moments, PRAISE GOD.
Difficult moments, SEEK GOD.
Quiet moments, WORSHIP GOD.
Painful moments, TRUST GOD.
Every moment, THANK GOD.
God’s Blessings on you today.

Mahal kong Anak,

Sa aking pagtanda, unawain mo sana ako at pagpasensiyahan.
Kapag dala ng kalabuan ng mata ay nakabasag ako ng pinggan o nakatapon ng sabaw sa hapag kainan, huwag mo sana akong kagagalitan.
Maramdamin ang isang matanda. Nagse-self-pity ako sa tuwing sinisigawan mo ako.

Kapag mahina na ang tenga ko at hindi ko maintindihan ang sinasabi mo, huwag mo naman sana akong sabihan ng ‘binge!’ paki-ulit nalang ang sinabi mo o pakisulat nalang. Pasensya ka na, anak. Matanda na talaga ako.

Kapag mahina na ang tuhod ko, pagtiyagaan mo sana akong tulungang tumayo, katulad ng pag-aalalay ko sa iyo noong nag-aaral ka pa lamang lumakad.

Pagpasensyahan mo sana ako kung ako man ay nagiging makulit at paulit-ulit na parang sirang plaka.
Basta pakinggan mo nalang ako. Huwag mo sana akong pagtatawanan o pagsasawaang pakinggan.

Natatandaan mo anak noong bata ka pa? kapag gusto mo ng lobo, paulit-ulit mo ‘yong sasabihin, maghapon kang mangungulit hangga’t hindi mo nakukuha ang gusto mo. Pinagtyagaan ko ang kakulitan mo.

Pagpasensyahan mo na rin sana ang aking amoy. Amoy matanda, amoy lupa. Huwag mo sana akong piliting maligo. Mahina na ang katawan ko. Madaling magkasakit kapag nalamigan, huwag mo sana akong pandirihan.
Natatandaan mo noong bata ka pa? Pinagtyagaan kitang habulin sa ilalim ng kama kapag ayaw mong maligo.

Pagpasensyahan mo sana kung madalas, ako’y masungit, Dala na marahil ito ng katandaan. Pagtanda mo, maiintindihan mo rin.

Kapag may konti kang panahon, magkwentuhan naman tayo,kahit sandali lang. Inip na ako sa bahay, maghapong nag-iisa. Walang kausap.
Alam kong busy ka sa trabaho, subalit nais kong malaman mo na sabik na sabik na akong makakwentuhan ka, kahit alam kong hindi ka interesado sa mga kwento ko.

Natatandaan mo anak, noong bata ka pa? Pinagtyagaan kong pakinggan at intindihin ang pautal-utal mong kwento tungkol sa iyong teddy bear.

At kapag dumating ang sandali na ako’y magkakasakit at maratay sa banig ng karamdaman, huwag mo sana akong pagsawaang alagaan. Pagpasensyahan mo na sana kung ako man ay maihi o madumi sa higaan,

Pagtyagaan mo sana akong alagaan sa mga huling sandali ng aking buhay.Tutal hindi na naman ako magtatagal.

Kapag dumating ang sandali ng aking pagpanaw, hawakan mo sana ang aking kamay At bigyan mo ako ng lakas ng loob na harapin ang kamatayan.
At huwag kang mag-alala, kapag kaharap ko na ang Diyos na lumikha, ibubulong ko sa kanya na pagpalain ka sana …
Dahil naging mapagmahal ka sa iyong ama’t ina…

- taken from DCHS_1990 mailing list.

The only reason anyone would ever hate you
is because they want to be just like you.

A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone,
even if they don’t like you.

Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you
before they go to sleep.

You mean the world to someone.

You are special and unique.

Someone that you don’t even know exists loves you.

When you make the biggest mistake ever,
something good comes from it.

When you think the world has turned its back on you
take another look.

Always remember the compliments you received.
Forget about the rude remarks.

And always remember….
when life hands you Lemons,
ask for Sugar and call me over!

Good friends are like stars.
You don’t always see them,
But you know they are always there..

‘Whenever God Closes One Door He Always Opens Another, Even Though
Sometimes It’s Hell in the Hallway’

I would rather have one rose and a kind word
from a friend while I’m here
than a whole truckload when I’m gone.

Happiness keeps You Sweet,
Trials keep You Strong,
Sorrows keep You Human,
Life keeps You Humble,
Success keeps You Glowing,
But Only
God keeps You Going

- taken from emails

Everyone has a personality of a cartoon character. Have you ever asked yourself what cartoon character do you most resemble?

A group of investigators got together and analyzed the personalities of well known and modern cartoon characters. The information that was gathered was made into this test.

Answer all the questions (only 10) with what describes you best, add up all your Points (which are next to the answer that you choose) at the end and look for your results.

Do not cheat by looking at the end of the e-mail before you are done.

1. Which one of the following describes the perfect date?
a) Candlelight dinner (4 pts.)
b) Fun/Theme Park (2 pts..)
c) Painting in the park (5 pts)d) Rock concert (1 pt.)
e) Going to the movies (3 pts.)

2. What is your favorite type of music?
a) Rock and Roll (2 pts.)
b) Alternative (1 pt.)
c) Soft Rock (4 pts.)
d) Country (5 pts.)
e) Pop (3 pts.)

3. What type of movies do you prefer?
a) Comedy (2 pts.)
b) Horror (1 pt.)
c) Musical (3 pts.)
d) Romance (4 pts.)
e) Documentary (5 pts.)

4. Which one of these occupations would you choose if you only could choose one of these?
a) Waiter (4 pts.)
b) Professional Sports Player (5 pts.)
c) Teacher (3 pts.)
d) Police (2 pts.)
e) Cashier (1 pt)

5 What do you do with your spare time?
a) Exercise (5 pts.)
b) Read (4 pts.)
c) Watch television (2 pts.)
d) Listen to music (1 pt.)
e) Sleep (3 pts.)

6. Which one of the following colors do you like best?
a) Yellow (1 pt.)
b) White (5 pts.)
c) Sky Blue (3 pts.)
d) Dark Blue (2 pts.)
e) Red (4 pts.)

7. What do you prefer to eat?
a) Snow (3 pts.)
b) Pizza (2 pts.)
c) Sushi (1 pt.)
d) Pasta (4 pts.)
e) Salad (5 pts.)

8. What is your favorite holiday ?
a) Halloween (1 pt.)
b) Christmas (3 pts.)
c) New Year (2 pts.)
d) Valentine’s Day (4 pts.)
e) Thanksgiving (5 pts.)

9. If you could go to one of these places which one would it be?
a) Paris (4 pts)
b) Spain(5 pts)
c) Las Vegas(1 pt)
d) Hawaii(4 pts)
e) Hollywood (3 pts)

10. With which of the following would you prefer to spend time with?
a) Someone Smart (5 pts.)
b) Someone attractive (2 pts.)
c) Someone who likes to Party (1 pt.)
d) Someone who always has fun (3 pts.)
e) Someone very sentimental (4 pts.)

Now add up your points and find out the answer you have been waiting for!Put your character in the subject line and forward to your friends and back to the person that sent this to you.
Very interesting to see’who’ your friends are!

(10-16 points) You are Garfield:
You are very comfortable, easy going, and you definitely know how to have fun but sometimes you take it to an extreme. You always know what you are doing and you are always in control of your life. Others may not see things as you do, but that doesn’t mean that you always have to do what is right. Try to remember, your happy spirit may hurt you or others.

(17-23 points) You are Snoopy:
You are fun; you are very cool and popular. You always know what’s in and you! ‘re never out of style,y you are good at knowing how to satisfy everyone else. You have probably disappeared for a few days more than once but you always come home with the family values that you learned Being married and having children are important to you, but onl! y after you have had your share of fun times

(24-28 points) You are Elmo:
You have lots of friends and you are also popular, always willing to give advice and help out a person in need. You are very optimistic and you always see the bright side of things. Some good advice: try not to be too much of a dreamer. Dreaming too big could cause many conflicts in your life.

(29-35 points) You are Sponge Bob Square Pants:
You are the classic person that everyone loves. You are the best friend that anyone could ever have and never wants to lose. You never cause harm to anyone and they would never not understand your feelings. Life is a journey, it’ s funny and calm for the most part. Stay a! way from traitors and jealous people and you will be stress free.

(36-43 points) You are Charlie Brown:
You are tender, you fall ! in love quickly but you are also very serious about all relationships. You are a family person. You call your Mom every Sunday. You have many friends and may occasionally forget a few Birthdays. Don’t let your passion confuse you with reality.

(44-50 points ) You are Dexter:
You are smart and definitely a thinker… Every situation is fronted with a plan. You have a brilliant mind. You demonstrate very strong family principles. You maintain a stable routine but never ignore a bad situation when it comes. Try to do less over thinking every once in a while to spice things up a bit with spontaneity!

-excerpt from fwd email.

A woman , while at the funeral of her own mother, meets a guy whom she
did not know. She thought this guy was simply ‘ amazing’ , very much of
her dream guy, she believed him to be just that! She fell in love with
him right there, but never asked for his number and could not find him.

A few days later she killed her FIRST sister.
Question: What is her motive in killing her sister?

(Give this some thought before you answer).

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Answer: She was hoping that the guy would appear at the funeral again.

If you answered this correctly , you think like a psychopath .. This
was a test by a famous American Psychologist used to test if one has
the same mentality as a killer. Many arrested serial killers took part
in the test and answered the question correctly. If you didn’t answer
the question correctly, good for you.

- taken from forwarded emails

What do husbands and wives need from each other? A best-selling book
entitled, Men Are From Mars , Women Are From Venus, explains how men and
women are different creatures. So for marriage to work, husbands and
wives must know each other’s different needs before they can meet and
fill those needs. It’s then they can have a satisfying marriage.  Today
we’ll let the ladies go first, and next time we’ll talk about husbands’
needs.

Women basically need 3 things from their husband.  Number 1:  affection.
Not just sex, but thoughtfulness, kindness, and yes, romance! Some of us
men treat our wives like they’re just our housekeeper and lover! Friend,
our wife needs our full attention and affection. So let her know how
often and how much you think of her.

Number 2:  your wife needs conversation and friendship. One of the
biggest disappointments that wives have is that their husband almost
never sits down and chats with them.  And that their husband doesn’t
treat them like a friend or equal.

Number 3:  Your wife needs faithfulness. Not just in providing money for
food and a home, but faithfulness to her personally! Your wife needs to
know that you’re a one-woman man! And that later you won’t trade her in
like an old car for a new model.

God, Who invented marriage, also gave us His manual for marriage:  the
Bible. When all else fails read the manual! In the Bible Jesus Christ
clearly shows and explains how husbands are supposed to love and serve
the needs of their wife.  But you’ll never have what it takes to satisfy
and meet your wife’s needs until you ask Jesus Christ to forgive you for
your self-centeredness and let Him take full charge of your character.
Only with Jesus’ strength and real love can you be the man and husband
your wife needs. Just think a minute…

Jhan and Iris Tiafau Hurst are a multi-cultural husband-wife team of
university lecturers and motivational speakers. Over the past 22 years
they have lived and worked professionally in the U.S., Singapore,
Indonesia, New Zealand, Samoa and Fiji. Jhan’s bachelor’s and master’s
degrees in theology and philosophy were earned from universities in
Missouri and California. Iris was born and raised in the Pacific island
nation of Western Samoa. She graduated with a bachelor’s degree in
business marketing and management from Emporia State University in
Kansas. Jhan and Iris have two sons.

- excerpt from emails.

You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up She was tired of fighting and struggling. It
seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in
the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and
placed them in a bowl.

Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see."

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed
the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same
adversity: boiling water. Each reacted
differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after
sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your
door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same,
but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it
releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity?

Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; 
they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can’t go forward in life until
you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

May we all be COFFEE.

A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.

GEMS MAY BE PRECIOUS,
BUT FRIENDSHIP IS PRICELESS!

- excerpt from an email.